A lot of people like the idea of change. We like imagining what our lives could look like if we were different. Maybe we'd be more confident, less anxious, more disciplined, better at setting boundaries, more successful, healthier, or finally doing the thing we've been saying we're going to do for years. The harder part is figuring out how to change and how to sustain changes. That is where a lot of our enthusiasm tends to disappear.

A lot of people think change is hard because of the work itself, the habit, the routine, the new behavior they’re trying to build. However, in coaching (and in life), I’ve learned that the hardest part isn’t the actual work, but everything that happens before we start.

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