“Where do you see yourself in five years?” Every time I used to hear that question, I’d cringe. It felt like a trap. How was I supposed to predict the exact shape of my life in five years when I was still figuring things out today? As a coach, I now realize I wasn’t alone in this.

A lot of people think change is hard because of the work itself, the habit, the routine, the new behavior they’re trying to build. However, in coaching (and in life), I’ve learned that the hardest part isn’t the actual work, but everything that happens before we start.

I used to fight reality every single day. I longed for a more supportive boss. I wanted to be further along in my career. I wished my...

Let’s be real: most of us were never taught how to deal with emotions. We didn’t learn it in school. Many of us didn’t learn it in our...