Every year around this time, the holidays approach, the year begins to wrap up, and reflection naturally follows.

A lot of people think change is hard because of the work itself, the habit, the routine, the new behavior they’re trying to build. However, in coaching (and in life), I’ve learned that the hardest part isn’t the actual work, but everything that happens before we start.

I used to fight reality every single day. I longed for a more supportive boss. I wanted to be further along in my career. I wished my...

“Where do you see yourself in five years?” Every time I used to hear that question, I’d cringe. It felt like a trap. How was I supposed to predict the exact shape of my life in five years when I was still figuring things out today? As a coach, I now realize I wasn’t alone in this.