“Where do you see yourself in five years?” Every time I used to hear that question, I’d cringe. It felt like a trap. How was I supposed to predict the exact shape of my life in five years when I was still figuring things out today? As a coach, I now realize I wasn’t alone in this.

How are you actually feeling today? Let’s be real: most of us were never taught how to deal with emotions. We didn’t learn it in school....